Day 1 of the Avatar Professional Course in Orlando, FL. I am here, reviewing this course for the first time in 11 years (I’m a bit of an anomaly here, most people reviewing the course are regular attendees.) Why did I come back?
The Professional Course… “provides the mental and emotional keys to successfully employ your best talents in the world.”
This seemed like a fantastic way to take my AskJoanne.com business to the next level, to insure I bring the best of myself to my work.
What happened when I started to do the coursework? …. I immediately hit a wall of resistance I had built around myself, and subsequently I not only felt terrible, but nearly immediately decided that coming here was a bad idea and that I should hop a plane back home ASAP. Isn’t personal development fun? 😉
Here’s where the story gets interesting. One of the other students on course noticed my distress and reached out, to be present with me in my fear, to offer a listening ear, and a helping hand (Thank you Bev!). She also gently, but firmly encouraged me to speak with one of the course instructors, to help me sort out my emotional turmoil.
With some fantastic coaching by one of the instructors (Thank you Barb!) I was able to unravel the “knot-ball” of my distress, make some profound discoveries about what was causing me pain, and continue on with the course with a lighter, happier heart.
How easy it is to close our eyes to someone else’s distress, to tell ourselves that “She will work it out on her own.” or “I shouldn’t intrude.” What opportunities do we miss to be of service to one another? What chances for loving kindness do we pass by each day? The amazing women who reached out to me have opened my eyes to the power of caring, and the profound change we might be able to make in someone’s life, just by being present.
It’s startling how quickly a small thing can bring back the full-on physical and emotional response of a trauma.
Yesterday brought a scare to our town when a “soft-lockdown” was instituted in the schools after a threatening call to an elementary school in town. Everyone is safe. No one was injured. All is well. But my hands still shake as I type this and all I day I have been remembering the events of the morning of December 14th. Please continue to pray for the families in Newtown.
The thing that keeps striking me is that my family and I are at least a few circles removed from “ground zero” of that event. We are not anywhere near as directly impacted as so many around us. Yet, the fear is real and palpable, even for us.
Fear is more than a simply a mental state. If effects both the physiology of the body and the chemical balance of the brain as well. When people are afraid it generates stress. Extreme stress can manifest itself physically in a number of ways.
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It’s as if the whole town is in the midst of PTSD. I see the signs all around me.
The first recommendation for the treatment of post traumatic stress disorder is psychotherapy, “talk therapy.” Part of the reason that this kind of therapy is beneficial is that it can educate on the effects of trauma, it can also help us to learn to relax and find healthier ways to handle the stress of fear and anger.
Another very handy tool to remove the charge from fear is the releasing fixed attention exercise from a book called ReSurfacing by Harry Palmer. Releasing fixed attention can help you free up the stuck thought patterns around a fearful or traumatic event. It works the way we already operate… talk about the trauma, talk about something else, talk about it some more, talk about something else, and so on. But the exercise does it in a more efficient and deliberate manner.
I know ours is not the only trauma in the world today, lately we seem to be surrounded by it. I feel it’s more important than ever to reach for a future filled with kindness, compassion and peace and we all know it’s the Man (or Woman) in the Mirror who can begin to make that happen.